What really makes you a REAL Man?

Dear men,
1. Having many girlfriends does not make you a man. It only makes you a womanizer and a cheat and a boy.
2. A real man has only one woman in his life.
3. For the fact that you are good in bed does not make you a man. A real man is the man who does not run away from his responsibility but faces it squarely.
4. You don’t need to sag your trousers and walk round the street before girls will love you. Infact it is only small boys that sag trousers and it is premature little girls that fall in love with men who sag trousers.
5. Don’t use and dump ladies. Remember the law of karma. Whatever you do, you will receive the reward.
6. If you cannot make her your wife, don’t make her a mother.
7. Do not obey your erection at all times. Most times our erections mislead us to the wrong direction. Control your erection. Don’t let your erection control you.
8. It is not everything you see under skirt that you should hustle to eat, some skirts contain snakes that will bite you. Control your sex urge. Self control and abstinence pays a lot.
9. Do not date a lady because she has sexy curves, boobs and shapes. Those things are just packaging; and packaging can be very deceptive.
10. Respect any lady that loves you.
11. Do not beat any woman, even if she is your wife.
12. Real men don’t gossip.
13. Spend more time to hustle for money. Real and wise men use their time to think and plan on how to be financially successful. Foolish men use their time to think and plan on how to sleep with many girls.
14. The world only celebrates successful men. Nobody will celebrate you for having many girlfriends. Therefore what is the benefit? Waste of energy and waste of protein.
BE A WISE MAN.

Source: Internet post

Why hurt me if you say you love me?

Good old days those were, as little as I was, I watched my older cousin sister happy each time some strange guy came to the gate and she always ran there to see him. I had never seen someone beam with such joy and the widest of smiles.

So as time went on, I realized something could have terribly gone wrong with the strange man at the gate who always showed up at 10:00 am when my aunt and uncle were away for work.

Perfect timing it was and this was on a daily schedule for as long as she was on holiday. A few holidays later the 10:00 o’clock knock at the gate suddenly stopped; the smiles were no more, the beaming face with joy turned into anger and bitterness.

But as little as I was, I knew she was hurting though only got to hear the maid and my elder cousin brothers gossip about a ‘Moses’ who fought with my sister and are no longer in touch. That explained the lost joy; I then wondered why someone would hurt somebody so loving and dear to us. So as I grew older, I came to know of something called ‘LOVE’

I told myself the very man I will fall in love with shall be my last till death does us apart.

Well, little did I know that it’s every girl’s dream but then not many girls actually get to achieve it. Instead we go through a series of relationships hoping one day we will find true love.

A friend once told me that it’s okay to date as many as there are available; who knows one day among the many might come a PRINCE.

I joined University as in most cases with girls; virgin, very innocent then I landed on a gentleman pleasant to sight as many saw him and so year one, so in love, year two- disappearance acts began. This guy was in his 3^rd year of BCOM while I was an artist BIFA. My course demanded a lot that I spent most of my time in the studios working on art pieces.

And also keeping in mind I was not this girl with money, I lived a simple, cheap but more academic life style and stuck for one partner while I thought we were both on the same page which wasn’t the case.

Now as for the girls that lived in the campus halls of residence can relate with me here, on days like Friday evening, private cars could park at the Halls and girls always marched out with their bags, they could drive back in on Sunday night for some others it was Monday morning depending on the girl’s timetable. And of course for me with a boyfriend who never picked me up I always stayed in the room and spent time reading my clay for the sculpture and ceramic works.

So this one day in a month of February a week to 14^th, my boyfriend suggested that we go to Jinja for that weekend since Valentines fall on a Friday, boy oh boy!!! One should have seen my glowing face, brightness and excitement couldn’t wait to share it with my roommate. He promised to pick me up on Friday evening. I recall having packed my little bags with a few clothes for the weekend away, being a lighter traveler, I couldn’t carry much. I couldn’t wait to spend my first weekend with my boyfriend.

We had a payphone at the reception and also one of the girls opposite my room had a phone so this gut at times called me through any of the two as we agreed on the time of the call.

Friday morning, he called on my opposite door neighbor’s phone and told me of the day’s programme so he said, ” I will come at 3:00pm to pick you up” being a day scholar, i studied half day for some reason my timetable was favorable. From 3:00pm I waited for him to call-my neighbour came for me and said her boyfriend had picked her up and so my chances of communication had to switch to the pay phone at the reception. I went over to the payphone, called him and asked him to contact me through the payphone which he agreed to. Two hours later there was no call, three hours…four hours…8 hours later, no sign of him. It was now midnight and most rooms were empty not that all the girls had gone for Valentine’s Day but some had gone home to their parents or relatives. Loneliness kicked in; I lay on my bed and tears began to flow effortlessly, I knew he had stood me up only to be told by my opposite door neighbor who owned a phone that he is in Jinja at the same happening place but with another girl, I didn’t believe. She offered to put the guy on the phone and I speak to him. I instead asked her to describe how he was dressed. Later on at around 3:00am of 15^th February, he shows up at my door, I broke down and I said to him, “Valentine’s day was yesterday…” I stopped after realizing that my friend wasn’t lying when she described how he was dressed.

He gave me a million excuses of how the car broke down, and his mother was in hospital and his brother who apparently was meant to send money for the mother’s treatment delayed and oooohhh!!!!

 

I didn’t want to hear the talk and so I asked him to choose who he prefers; he proudly told me that he preferred the both of us.

I did myself a favor, closed the door, cried through the night but choose to move on.

I keep wondering, for how long should someone shade tears on Valentine’s Day? I said to myself, I will always find my happiness with or without a partner. Again, how can someone you love so dear, hurt you deepest?

Anonymous

 

Things you can do this valentine

A massage is one of the best ways you can pamper your loved one Photo by Dominic Bukenya

Most people pretend not to care about Valentine’s Day but as you watch your friends receive flowers and posting their lovely valentines treats, your heart bleeds. Am one kind who doesn’t really care about the origin of the day but I believe it’s cool to move with the trend. If you love him or her why not show it to him and to the entire world. Regardless whether you met two weeks ago, have been together for months, years or married with five kids. Love need to be celebrated. And here are some of the things you could do to make it memorable for your loved one.

Spend time together: Nothing satisfies a loved one than sacrificing your time. When you give them time on this special day is not only an indicator that they are the only ones, but it strengthens the bond more and more. Of course don’t just spend a full day with her or him, do something that will excite the both of you for example, cooking dinner together, taking that walk in the evening, watching that romantic movie at home alone.

Present: Don’t just take the day for granted, give your loved one something they can remember, something tangible. A valuable present would be a nice gesture as it will daily remind him or her of you. It doesn’t have to be too expensive but then don’t spoil it by giving him or her something that is really so cheap and of low quality; they will despise it especially if they gave you a better one.

Massage treat: A massage is something that can relax the two of you, it will refresh your loved one and anything you do after the massage will fall on a fertile ground since both of you are away from the worldly stress and feel pampered.

Flowers: Much as everyone loves to receive flowers, it would be nice to accompany them with something else, a more lasting present or dinner. Remember however much you could love your flowers, they can live for just a few days and they will die away.

Try out something new: The two of you have done so many things together but wouldn’t it be nicer to introduce something new and do it together on that day?  For example hiking, bungee jumping, canoeing, skating or as simple as the morning run on the road. This might seem so easy but a memory will last.

Get away: If you’ve got the time, money and freedom, stretch your Valentine’s Day into a Valentine’s weekend away at a romantic resort or bed-and-breakfast out of town. Do some research a few weeks before and send her three options, so she won’t be completely thrown off guard and can book the time off if needed. This way you can combine the relaxation of a mini-holiday with time spent alone together. Who says no to a holiday? Don’t be tied home because of kids, call in a friend or cousin to watch them at least for a night.

You do not want to be the kind who loses a partner in the Valentine storm, make an impression that will last. And whatever you choose to do, make sure  your partner feels special on this day. Happy Valentines everybody

Date a younger man at your own risk

Only brave women ask for a guy’s age on a first date. All you see is this trendy nice-looking man, so charming, real and his innocence traps you. You can’t wait to make him your own; before you know it, you have fallen so deep for a guy just to be disappointed by the year of birth on his passport.
You don’t want to put out the flames so you borrow the ‘age is just a number’ adage. Yes, maybe it worked for your friends but before you sign up for that kind of relationship, know what you are up against.
Younger people are as adventurous outside of the bedroom as they are inside it, and they’ll bring out a more youthful, vibrant side of you. He will have time for you mainly because he is not that busy. He will do everything right until you start boring him. He wants to party till 4am, but you have an early morning meeting so you pass. Instead of choosing to go home with you, he will follow his friends from one bar to another.
You might stomach it for a few days until you can’t anymore.
Do you blame him? You had your time, partied and messed around but now you are tired of it, you are craving something more real other than spending every night out. You start desiring more mature talk but he will be busy watching the Man U Vs Arsenal matches which by the way affect them emotionally. One time we visited a cousin in Rwanda, he took us out but after the tour, he wanted to watch an Arsenal game.
As always (no fact because I don’t really follow the games) they lost. After the game, he was too pissed to even drive us back to the hotel.
If your boyfriend is still the kind who reacts to such, buckle up because you are yet to go through enormous stressful nights more so if you two have different hobbies.
The less baggage and innocence mainly because they haven’t dated as many people as you have is thrilling. You are excited to teach them everything but soon they might want to try it out on someone else.
Your biological clock is ticking away, meanwhile his might not even be turned on. You are ready to put a ring on it, settle down and have a family; yet all he is looking at is the next ‘plot’ or party to crash.
Younger people are excited about everything and they wouldn’t settle before they feel satisfied. You might do it for fun but then be alert not to fall prey to your own trap and fall in love; life is not only about excitement, its reality.
As much as some might be there for love, be cautioned that others are just lazy boys looking for a “mummy” to take care of them. No matter how much he will prove to you that he is there for love, there will come a time when you will need him to man-up and take his position.

By Christine Nakalungi