Age is just a number until…

Age is just a number and maturity is a choice. Every birthday I celebrate, I am reminded that I am coming closer to my end. When I was young, I wished I would grow up the next day. But now that I am grown, I wish time could slow down a little bit.
My grandma once told me. If you want to fail in life, ignore age. While you are busy singing that same old song, your agemates are actually getting married, having babies and making mature decisions. Soon you will feel left out. You will have no common conversation with your peers. I mean, they are talking about kindergarten fees, CEO meetings, marriage anniversaries whereas poor you, all you think of is “I will do it tomorrow”
Most times, we claim that there’s still time and we feel no need to rush. We still believe that tomorrow will have better opportunities.
Well, we might delay, but time will not. It’s time we start acting our age; do things that reflect our birth certificates. No one knows what tomorrow brings; we just have to do what we have to do when we still have the energy to do it.

Every individual has that time set apart for them to shine. In media, we call it prime time or peak hour. This is the time when you are supposed to shine, when everyone is giving you a platform to say or do what you want to. Once you lose it, you might never get a second chance.
Every girl has that time where boys cloud her like a rose flower in the wild, every man’s heart aches when she sways her hips from one side to another, her skin is smooth and shiny and her chest is raised and firm. Every man desires to touch and feel her waist and her eyes are still bright and innocent. She might take the lime light for a year, two or even three but it will eventually dim.

Every time, new things and new people come on board and when they do, all attention shifts to them. If we are not smart enough to utilize our time and chance, we might end up missing out on life.

When I was growing up, my aunt was bleaching; I didn’t know it until I visited the village recently and the person I saw did not match the aunt I grew up seeing. She was darker than all her sisters and as we sat around the fire, her brothers started dissing her; that she pushed away all the good guys who wanted to marry her and now she is all alone. I felt bad but I learnt a lesson.No wonder, our generation has many fully grown people who think they still have time to start a new career, fall in love and even start a family.

Time flies and it has no relationship with anyone, if you do not use it wisely, by the time you wake up, it will be somewhere else…shining on other people. So fall in love today, start a family, career and business for time won’t wait for nobody. Remember, do the right thing at the right time to avoid regrets. However, there’s no need to rush…everyone has a different timetable and our destiny is different.

By Christine Nakalungi

Not all heroes are fake – get over that heartbreak

 

“Once beaten twice shy,” the adage goes. It’s true, heartbreaks change people. They bruise our trust and train us to be diehards. Once doubt enters someone’s heart, it affects their decisions; they become pessimists and just look at the dark side of everything.
And even though we claim to be taking time off to “heal the wounds,” what we are doing is building walls around our hearts, training our minds not to take every word as biblical truth. With time we are turned into analytical lovers.

When we were naïve, we acted innocent and our love was genuine. We had high expectations. We were going to live our Cinderella story. However, as the days went by, we were betrayed by our first love. He was the hero we were waiting for; we sacrificed our innocence and trust and never at any moment did we prepare for the ugly break-up.

When he said, “It’s over” we thought our world had come to an end. We vowed never to love again. We cried our hearts out and the sweet memories became nightmares. We lost appetite and we could not find any reason to live. Meanwhile, our “hero” had moved on to another victim. As we drowned in heartache, he was drinking from the fountain of happiness.

Time heals everything, but the scars stay to remind us of our past mistakes. The problem is, even when we meet the genuine fellows, it will take God’s intervention to let them in.
If a girl is hurt, all men become nothing but little “devils”; they swear never to fall for their lies. A genuine person might come along and pour his heart out, and we will listen with our ears, and nod with our heads but our hearts will not even be bothered to follow.

Dear sister, stop tormenting everyone because of someone’s faults. The one who hurt you is one selfish and ungrateful person. Can you give other people some time to prove that they are not “fake”?
Everyone deserves a chance. Now that you know how to protect your heart, it’s time to give yourself another chance to love and enjoy life. If you have not yet signed up for celibacy, expect men to flow in with their CVs.

Life is not a bed of roses. When you chase everyone away, you are actually creating a world of loneliness, you are burying yourself deeper. Meanwhile, the person who hurt you has moved on and is having fun, breaking other hearts. It is not your obligation to hurt them back, Karma will eventually catch up with them.

Love is beautiful, enjoy it as it lasts. We live in a world of uncertainty, learn to live one day at a time and prepare your heart, mind and soul for the worst. You are the type who has labeled all men. But the same – question is, how many have you dated? If you have dated the entire world, then we salute you and grant you permission to let go of love. But if you are making such a conclusion with just a few men, sister, wake-up and embrace life again. Who told you that he was the first and last-born of all men?

Like John the Baptist who came preparing the way for the coming of Christ, in relationships, some people are just preparing the way, nurturing us into the wives we are supposed to be. Don’t hate them; they were in your life for a purpose and a season. Now that the purpose was fulfilled, they had to go on and let you get to the next stage.

Remember, you kiss many frogs before you meet the Prince. So go ahead, kiss a few more other frogs and when your hero arrives, forget the past and give him the best because, not all heroes are fake.

By Christine Nakalungi

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